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Free Relationship Workshop in Amsterdam!

Monday, May 21st, 2012

I Need Your Love, Approval and Appreciation – Is That True?

You’re invited to a free ABC Spiritual Book Club-session on Relationships by SBC-members Richard Kwakernaak and Sagar Simon!

In the words of John Milton (Paradise Lost):

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..”

Many people look for a relationship, hoping it will be heaven, only to find out it can be hell! In the words of Byron Katie: “Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible…” So what role does our mind play in creating a loving and lasting bond with someone and how can we leave our self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours behind?

In this workshop Richard Kwakernaak and Sagar Simon look at how our beliefs, desires and attitudes about relationships, and the way we communicate, influence the quality of our relationships with other people and with ourselves.

They will approach the subject of relationships from various viewpoints, elaborating specifically on the fields of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Mindfulness and The Work of Byron Katie.

The workshop will be fun, revealing and leave you with tools you can instantly use when noticing stress!

*** This is an introduction workshop for Richard’s and Sagar’s workshop series in the ABC Treehouse in Amsterdam on June 29th, June 30th and July 1st! ***


About Richard Kwakernaak:

Richard Kwakernaak works as a communication trainer and coach. He studied and practiced amongst other things a lot of NLP and Mindfulness. Richard has been an internationally certified trainer of NLP for almost 10 years.

About Sagar Simon:

Sagar Simon has a Masters Degree in counseling, has been trained both as a Gestalt Therapist and Hypnotherapist, and is a certified facilitator of The Work.

Details

  • Date: Sunday, June 3rd, 2012
  • Time: 15:00-17:00
  • Location: ABC Treehouse, Voetboogstraat 11, Amsterdam
  • Costs: free! But to reserve your spot, email Femke at femke@abc.nl

ABC’s Spiritual Book Club – New Book Pick: I Need Your Love – Is That True? by Byron Katie

Thursday, May 10th, 2012

On Sunday May 20th, ABC’s Spiritual Book Club will meet at the ABC Treehouse in Amsterdam to discuss our new book pick: Byron Katie’s I Need Your Love, Is That True?

In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love—Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection.

I Need Your Love—Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most—the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover’s tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you’ve based your whole life on—and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness.

“Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by love—seeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore.  This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” —Byron Katie

What is ABC’s Spiritual Book Club?

The Spiritual Book Club’s focus is on practical Spirituality. “How do I apply these spiritual insights in my own life?”, “How can I stay centered in the hectic of every day living?” are questions we will address during our discussions. Coming together with other “spiritual seekers” from all over the world in an ambiance of mutual respect and relaxed openness is what the Spiritual Book Club is all about.

Details:

  • When: every 2nd Sunday of the month
  • Next meeting: Sunday May 20th, 2012
  • Time: 15:00 to 17:00
  • Location: ABC Treehouse, Voetboogstraat 11, Amsterdam
  • Cost: free, but reservations are requested via host and participants are expected to buy the book selection at ABC
  • Minimum number of participants: 4
  • Host: Femke Wijdekop, e-mail femke@abc.nl

ABC’s Spiritual Book Club Amsterdam – New Book Pick: The Element by Ken Robinson

Monday, February 27th, 2012

On Sunday March 11th, ABC’s Spiritual Book Club: Amsterdam will meet in the ABC Treehouse to discuss the bestseller The Element by Ken Robinson

The Element is the point at which natural talent meets personal passion. When people arrive at the Element, they feel most themselves and most inspired and achieve at their highest levels. With a wry sense of humor, Ken Robinson looks at the conditions that enable us to find ourselves in the Element and those that stifle that possibility.

Drawing on the stories of a wide range of people, including Paul McCartney, Matt Groening, Richard Branson, Arianna Huffington, and Bart Conner, he shows that age and occupation are no barrier and that this is the essential strategy for transforming education, business, and communities in the twenty-first century.

A breakthrough book about talent, passion, and achievement from one of the world’s leading thinkers on creativity and self-fulfillment.

What is the Spiritual Book Club?

The Spiritual Book Club’s focus is on practical Spirituality. “How do I apply these spiritual insights in my own life?” “How can I stay centered in the hectic of every day living?” are questions we will address during our discussions. Coming together with other “spiritual seekers” from all over the world in an ambiance of mutual respect and relaxed openness is what the Spiritual Book Club is all about.

Details:

  • When: every 2nd Sunday of the month
  • Next meeting: Sunday March 11th
  • Time: 15:00 to 17:00
  • Location: ABC Treehouse, Voetboogstraat 11, Amsterdam
  • Cost: free, but reservations are requested via host and participants are expected to buy the book selection at ABC
  • Minimum number of participants: 4
  • Host: Femke Wijdekop, e-mail femke@abc.nl

Four Questions That Could Change Your Life

Friday, February 3rd, 2012

Four questions that could change your life -  Could it be that simple?

A report on the workshop on Byron Katie’s The Work by ABC’s Spiritual Book Club participant Adella Langdon.

Byron Katie

One day in 1986 Byron Katie woke up out of a debilitating depression that she had had for ten years.  As she lay on the floor in a halfway house, somewhere in America, a cockroach crawled over her foot; she looked up and asked herself: “Are my thoughts true”? “Who would I be without these thoughts”. The Work was born.

The Inquiry

On Sunday the 22nd of January 2012, Femke Wijdekop, the driving force behind ABC’s Spiritual Book Club organized a workshop facilitated by Sagar Simon, a certified counselor for The Work. Sagar, a gentle, soft-spoken American, helped the curious audience go down their personal rabbit holes of self-discovery and find freedom, peace and joy. He compassionately peeled off layers of endless mind chatter and rampaging thoughts with inquiry; he held the painful past up to the light of 4 questions and a turn-around.

Out of your mind – Onto paper

The first step is to write down all the judgments about any stressful situation past, present, or future. You can find the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet on www.thework.com to download and print. Answer the questions as honestly, as childishly as you can – no holding back. Invite the uncensored stories, thoughts, feelings, to rise up to the surface of your consciousness. The pure physicality of getting it out of your mind and onto paper stabilizes those cyclic thoughts – they are there, in print, in front of you. This is where The Work starts.

Is it true?

You have let the monkeys, the gorillas out of the zoo, out of your head, off your shoulder – now it’s time to ask yourself: ‘Is it true”?

  1. Is it true?
  2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
  3. How do you react, what happens when you believe that thought?
  4. Who would you be without the thought?

and, Turn it around.

Find three genuine examples of how the turn-around is true in your life.

The Universality of Suffering

I was lucky enough to have the opportunity of being guided through the questions and turn-around by Sagar. I had already filled the form in at home; asked myself: Is it true?, Can I be absolutely sure? and did many turn-arounds. I was amazed at what came up and what it did for me. But working with Sagar was the cherry on the “iceberg”. With understanding, with experience and knowledge, he invited me to dig even deeper – I was so ready for it – I am so ready not to be a victim of my past anymore – I am so ready to be able to see those old images, hear the voices, and be able to greet them with a gentle smile and pure love. The Work takes the lid off the pressure cooker of contracted, constricted, old, accumulated life stuff.

You realize, they truly are just thoughts. Yet we give them so much power! Each time I looked into the audience I was met with a sea of encouraging eyes, nods of “That’s my story too!”, smiles of recognizing the universality of suffering.

Loving what is, what was, what if

How could I possibly love the fact that my mother’s brain is slowly disintegrating due to that horrible disease Alzheimer? With The Work, I have been able to turn things around. I was frantic, scared – “a chicken without a head,” as the Dutch say. My fear of her death, losing her, blinded me to the beauty of the moment. My turn-around was: “I was dying, not my mum”. My mother lives in blissful ignorance, alive and kicking, loving every moment. Now, I can dance with dementia, I defy my demons. Each moment is a gift, each fit of laughter, each cuddle, each kiss. I give her unconditionally what she deserves: Infinite Love – Infinite Patience. I Love What Is – I Turn It Around, I give myself Infinite Love and Infinite Patience.

ABC’s Spiritual Book Club Amsterdam – New Bookpick: Loving What Is

Thursday, January 26th, 2012

On Sunday February 12th, ABC’s Spiritual Book Club Amsterdam will meet at the ABC Treehouse to discuss our new book pick: Byron Katie’s Loving What Is.

“Out of nowhere, like a fresh breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice on what to believe, comes Byron Katie and what she calls “The Work.” In the midst of a normal life, Katie became increasingly depressed, and over a ten-year period sank further into rage, despair, and thoughts of suicide. Then one morning, she woke up in a state of absolute joy, filled with the realization of how her own suffering had ended. The freedom of that realization has never left her, and now in Loving What Is you can discover the same freedom through The Work.

The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light. As Katie says, “It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.” Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. At that point, we can truly love what is, just as it is. Loving What Is will show you step-by-step, through clear and vivid examples, exactly how to use this revolutionary process for yourself.”

What is the Spiritual Book Club?

The Spiritual Book Club’s focus is on practical Spirituality. “How do I apply these spiritual insights in my own life?” “How can I stay centered in the hectic of every day living?” are questions we will address during our discussions. Coming together with other “spiritual seekers” from all over the world in an ambiance of mutual respect and relaxed openness is what the Spiritual Book Club is all about.

Details:

  • When: every 2nd Sunday of the month
  • Next meeting: Sunday February 12th
  • Time: 15:00 to 17:00
  • Location: ABC Treehouse, Voetboogstraat 11, Amsterdam
  • Cost: free, but reservations are requested via host and participants are expected to buy the book selection at ABC
  • Minimum number of participants: 4
  • Host: Femke Wijdekop, e-mail femke@abc.nl